Learning pickup shouldn’t be hard. You don’t have to feel judged. But the feeling of judgement by others hinders our ability to learn the right way. We attempt to skip steps and that causes us to miss out on<a href=”http://mindfulattraction.org/inner-game-foundations-home-study-course/”> the fundamentals of game</a>. These fundamentals are what removes the “creepy” vibe from us.
Because of our desire to get laid, it’s normal for you to try to skip the necessary steps and learn how to create instant attraction or how to physically escalate. That’s all fine and dandy, the issue is that it causes you to lose focus on the most important skill: approaching.
I remember when I was learning game, but with no results. None of the girls I was approaching were sticking, that is to say, they weren’t stopping. For the whole summer of 2014, girls were not stopping and it frustrated me.
Fast forward a few months and I began to practice how to shoot a basketball. Mind you, I sucked for 10 years prior to that. I never learned how to actually “learn”. I would begin practice shooting from the 3 point line and doing crazy moves that I clearly never practiced, but was doing it because that’s what the “pros” do.
Rather than practicing, I Would focus on playing actual games, like everybody.
Then I began to look at the pros and see what they did and to my surprise, they were doing the opposite of what i was doing. The best shooters were practicing shooting in the paint and I began to ask myself, “what if i did exactly as they did? What would be the outcome?”
I began to work on my form shooting. Initially, I sucked even more! But after a few months of frustration and practice, I noticed how my jump-shot was becoming unstoppable.
Then May of 2015 came along and I began doing pickup once again because I didn’t want to give up, but I came in it with a different mentality: I decided to focus on one skill at a time, no matter how tempted I may be to work on other things. I decided to focus on the approach; to learn to stop them almost 100% of the time.
If I mastered that, I would be eliminating the most common points of failure, which is not talking to them. If you can’t talk to them, you can’t seduce them. Why focus on all the other areas? didn’t make sense, but that’s what everyone else was NOT doing.
Mastery in game, and life in general, is about learning to take things one step at a time and mastering what’s in front of you. The best PUA’s always advocate to find that sticking point and stick to it until you master it. We hear it all the time, but we never do what they say. I remember doing that as well, so you’re not alone.
If you’re not good at game, it only means that you’re not addressing your sticking point. I know its difficult because most of the times we’re facing our fears, but it’s a must! You must single out one area where you suck in game and focus exclusively on mastering it. That’s what sets you apart from the loners to the ones that live in abundance.
Mastering that one skill, as Robert Green says in his book “Mastery”, sets the foundation for all the other skills. Would you imagine someone who sucks at opening and amazing at conversation and getting sexual? Yes, they’ll get results, but not to the extent as someone who can open consistently, and sexually escalate.
The amount of time that it’ll take to isolate that skill and learn it will be infinitely more rewarding than dealing with it and working with what you currently have. That’s complacent and not a mentality that harbors abundance.