If a guy cheats on you, you cannot get back to him. You just can't. There's nothing that will come out of getting back to a guy who cheated on you. The only time I'd say to go back to a man who cheated on you is when you need him financially--when he's the last option. If he's the last option, play like you liked him and play like you forgive him but plan your exit. Don't be with him expecting it to be forever. Get back with him, act like you're happy but you got to be planning your independence.
How could you stay with somebody who cheated on you? No matter how much you want to work it out, you'd never trust him. No matter how much he apologizes to you, you would never trust him. As a result, it's gonna make your relationship with him almost like a paranoid attack. You always have to control him, or have his phone--it's too much stress.
Right now, the only reason why you're with him is not that you love him but because he hurts your ego and you want that self-esteem back. He took your self-esteem, you want it back. That's really what you're saying and even secretly, you might want to get revenge. Secretly, you might want to prove yourself that you're worthy because the guy who cheated on you is back with you--like it meant that you're the shit.
Look, ladies, there's no other way around it. You can never fully trust somebody who cheated on you. You could try as much as you want but most of the time, it doesn't work. Think about it, even if you get back with him, you're gonna be living with someone who you secretly resent. That's not how you want to live.
Move on from people who cheated on you. Don't listen to your girlfriend, they don't know shit. Don't go back to someone who cheated on you because that's a recipe for low self-esteem. It's over. You got to realize that people would never do things just once. Usually, what you see is a repetitive pattern. It is what it is. You got to let go of people who hurt you like that and you got to let go of people who put your self-esteem down like that. If anybody cheated on you, it's over and you got to accept it as soon as possible.
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