This is a public service announcement for some of you ladies that are hard-headed. The thing is, the first guy is never the right guy. The first guy is always the wrong guy. The reason why I say this is: it's an insecurity to say yes to the first guy that comes to you. It truly is because you're not really assessing him based on who he is but based on who's first.
I'll be honest with you, the best thing in the world is when women choose like that because they don't make logical decisions and it usually leads to men winning. This is why you see a random dude who's ugly as sht with a hot girl--it was only because he happened to catch her when she was mentally weak.
It's insecurity to go after the first person. By not picking the first guy that comes to you, it means that you learn to pick the situation that's always in your favor. A good strategist doesn't put himself or herself in a situation that doesn't favor them. This means that the first guy usually is the wrong guy.
You don't want to waste your time with the wrong guy because life is too short. What I would recommend is to first test him, to know if he'll open up to you. I don't want you to meet the guy and all of a sudden, you like him. No. First, learn to test the guy and pick the right guy first. How do you test him? It's by paying attention to the way they respond to you, noticing if he flakes, noticing if he's texting a little bit too long or if he's taking too long to text you back.
Notice the way that he responds to you is how much he likes you. Don't rationalize it. The way he responds to you is how he feels about you. If conversations are short, he might just not like you so don't take it personally. Once you notice the way they react or their lack of reaction, then you can proceed. If he doesn't react to you properly even if you like him, don't proceed.
Know what you can get and be realistic. Once you notice that the guy likes you but not that much and if you notice that you have to keep playing these games to gain his interest then he's not the right guy for you. No matter how good the chemistry is, if you're noticing that his reaction and his liking to you is only temporary and you got to do things to build it up, it's not compatible to you so you got to make the decision that's best for you.
The kind of guy to pick if you want to control one, the kind of guy that I really recommend getting is guys with strong masculine egos. That's the kind of guys you want to get because those are easy to control--the aggressive kind who's always rushing into things. Now if you want a guy for compatibility, the kind of guy you want to go for is the guy who has the opposite traits of who you are.
In general, having somebody who has the opposite traits of who you are, what you lack like your weaknesses, that kind of stuff balances things together. That is the most important: compatibility. Chemistry is important though, don't get me wrong, but it's the last that you want to have because sometimes, chemistry develops over time.
You want to look for the other traits and you want to be very quick to throw guys down the curb because you don't want to waste your time. You want to be very good at reading people and the way you do this is to not say yes to the first guy and learn how to observe people.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.