Everyone has an attractive personality. Babies are liked because of their inhibition. We love them not because of what they can do but because of who they are. We love children because of their inhibition. But as soon as we place standards on them, they lose that inhibition.
Everyone has a personality locked inside Everyone has that potential.
When someone has a good personality, it means they are uninhibited. A bad personality is being inhibited. So, what is the cause? Excessive negative feedback is the cause of a bad personality.
Excessive negative feedback is to modify the response, and adjust accordingly, not to stop it (similar to programming). But if you are too sensitive, it will cause you to fuck up. NF is necessary
When we are too sensitive, we overreact to it by thinking that it’s wrong to EVEN TRY. The causes of sensitivity are morals: that expressing ourselves causes guilt and this is the cause of sexual inhibition as well.
The reason we learned to speak is because of negative feedback. A voice coach’s advice id to record yourself. A dating coach’s advice to record interactions with women to improve.
Self-consciousness (sensitive to what others say) and other consciousness and other consciousness creates inhibition. The key to a good impression is to let go of what people think of you.
The reason why people don’t express themselves is because of inhibition. We’re afraid that expressing ourselves is wrong and can be punished and having an opinion as a child brings punishment.
Now the practical solutions to unlock your true personality is to not think in advance, don’t plan… act and correct the moment. Don’t think first and act. Also, don’t criticize yourself, speak louder, tell people how you feel and totally ignore the negative feedback.
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