How do you give him a second chance? It depends on the circumstance.
There are guys you shouldn't give a second chance to. Don't give a second chance to guys who have cheated on you, guys who have hurt you, guys who call you names, guys who stole from you, and broke promises. Those are the guys I wouldn't recommend giving a second chance to.
If a guy ghosts you, wouldn't give him a second chance either. However, I understand if you want to give him a second chance.
Don't go telling him that you will give him a second chance. He has to come to you to ask for it.
The problem is that when they come back, you take them back instantly. It should be that, when he comes back to you, you'll say ‘I don't know.’ He'll be like ‘please, take me back.’ That should be your mentality when he tries to get back with you. Say ‘you have to try harder. You're not going to get me back at the first try.’
If a guy cheats, there's no second chance. He f*** it up.
The problem is that the ones who you give a second chance to are not the ones you let go. they are the ones who hurt you.
When he comes back, don't put him back on the throne. If he was once in level 10, start him back at level 1.
The problem with this is you’ll get discouraged with him. You might like it during the first couple of weeks. Then you will realize you have turned him into a little bitch.
I don't care how cool he is. When he starts acting needy with you, you’ll think that he is not the kind of guy you had in your head.
You're attracted to the mental person in your head. When he tries to get back with you, you're seeing a different part of his personality. He's trying to get your validation with this personality but that version of his personality is unattractive.
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