Today we’re going to talk about how social media affects your self-esteem and your daily life and why it’s important to use social media wisely and consciously.
Last month was a horrible month for me because I was so reactive. I started using other social media apps aside from Facebook and Instagram, I started adding different channels. The first day was good but after a while it became insane. When I turned on the notification on my phone, it got to a point where I became addicted to the responses on all of my platforms. The issue is not that social media is really bad, it’s that it becomes a crutch. This is the issue for women, they begin to define themselves based on the reactions they get on their social media accounts. You form a sense of identity-based on something fictitious. You base ourselves on other people’s perceptions of who we are and the problem is that most people’s perception is distorted.
Who do we do this to ourselves? Because it’s easy. It’s the easy route and we want constant stimulation.
We used to be in touch with who we are but as we grow older we get hurt and we begin to develop an ego and standards. What tends to happen is you don’t begin to become yourself rather than following that inner instinct that everyone individually has to go towards a certain pattern level that’s unique to themselves, you take a predictable path that’s not based on happiness but based on conformity. We lose our sense of self.
What I did now is I took away all of the notifications and because of that, my mind is present. When you’re on social media, you’re worried about what you said, what other people said and what other people are doing. You’re never really worried about the present moment.
Women have been put under this trap that who they are is based on their looks so that’s why it’s a trap because they get into a never-ending seeking of validation trying to impress other people.
Social media is a trap, it’s a way to feel better instantly. Observe yourself wanting validation and just stop yourself. Take away the notifications. Stop trying to feel better and you’re going to notice that you’re going to feel much better.
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