I want to talk about how to stay true to yourself in relationships. People have different personalities for different situations. They have different ways of absorbing information.
Emotional states dictate your sense of self. When you say you don't feel like yourself, your identity has a certain feeling.
There are certain days when you feel like yourself and there are days when you don't feel like yourself. Your emotional state causes you to act in certain ways. When you're angry, you process insults differently compared to when you're feeling compassionate.
Whenever you get in a relationship, what usually happens is that there's a certain side of you that comes out when you feel validated. The Person who dominates the relationship is the person who doesn't change. The one who is being dominated changes. The way you think changes.
In order to stay true to yourself, the most important thing is to be willing to lose him. Decide ahead of time that you'll be okay with losing him.
The reason why you let people use you or disrespect you is because you fear losing them. You fear that they might take it the wrong way and lose you. You don’t want that and your brain conforms.
When you want somebody to like you, you end up acting the way they act. You end up being almost like them.
You have to be careful with the people you choose to be with. It's easier to acquire bad habits compared to the good ones.
What you need to do is have goals that you want to achieve and make everyone fit around it. People's goals have to be in line with yours.
The problem is that chemistry is so addictive to the point that you would throw reason away. Simply because you have chemistry with them, you would blend in with them.
It's better to be with someone who you're compatible with in terms of your emotions and goals than someone you have chemistry with but not compatible in any way in life.
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