How do you cut the gap between long distance and living together? I just got this question from a client of mine.
You need to talk about your plans for the next year. If his plan is not to move in with you then that means it's not in the plan.
First of all you, need to have chemistry. There needs to be a connection between the two of you. Make sure that he at least kind of likes you. After a few months, then you give yourself a time limit. You don't want to bring it up.
If you break up with him after 6 months, he's going to ask you why you're breaking up.
You're thinking, within 6 months, if he doesn't bring up the topic of the future, then you're just going to break up with him.
During that month when you're about to end it, I want you to start breaking away. Call him less frequently. When you go on Skype, be sure to be the one to end the session. Say that you have to go do something else.
After a few weeks, he will start getting nervous. After that, you say 'hey look, I think we have to finish this. We have to finish this because we live too far away. I just feel like I'm wasting my time with you. We both live far and I don't think we're ever going to live close to each other.' End it.
If he really likes you, he's going to protest and say ‘Hey, how about we live closer’ and 'let's plan something.’ He will be proactive in finding a way to fix that gap.
You want him to make an effort. Otherwise, he will let you go which means he didn't really like you.
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