I was listening to this dude randomly and he was talking about how a woman's sexual history matters. He said that the more guys a woman gets with, the more she wants to get that satisfaction that she got from the first guy. It's like that first high. You keep trying to replay it.
The reason why people cheat is, essentially, they are looking for that high again. When you’re with people for a long time, almost like a drug, you become tolerant to it. When you become tolerant you want to get more and more, but you're not getting that high so you become frustrated.
In life, in order to understand how people perceive you, you have to objectify yourself. You have to see yourself as an object and people as consumers. Judge the quality of who you are based on people's reactions and also the quality of your life.
The problem that people have is keeping the people they like. We are literally drugs. We can create dopamine in people’s brain or cause displeasure.
Since you’re a drug, you're going to have to be the one to decide the dosage.
You do not allow the addict, the guy who loves you, to control when he sees you because, most likely, he will try to see you all the time.
The problem is that addicts don't have control. They grow tolerant to the drug that they've been taking. That drug ends up causing unhappiness in their life. The reason why that is is that they're out of control.
That's the thing with people falling in love. Not having control causes them to love you, but it also causes them to be tolerant to you. You have to be that rational mind. You have to control the dosage. Control how much of you he gets. Control the high he gets. Make him work for that smile that makes him happy.
It's harder to become tolerant of a drug that you take occasionally.
If you're always texting him, calling him, and letting him know how much you miss him, What's happening is you're not exerting control. You're being lazy. You cannot control yourself.
That's why the drugs that create the biggest high usually create the biggest low. If you're in a relationship and you want to be exciting, there’s a cost to the excitement.
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