From coaching a lot of my clients, I noticed that they always tell me how they struggle with trusting guys. You can't really trust people but that doesn't mean you should act paranoid around them.
It doesn't mean that you isolate yourself from people but that you mitigate risk.
Let's say you have your dog on a leash when he's around other people. You are aware of your dog's nature. You are acknowledging his nature and placing expectations based on that nature.
The problem is you're expecting the Prince from Disney to come. All those dudes from Disney are the most perfect dudes from the planet.
The reason why you get hurt initially is you put trust on people you don't know. It's human nature to feel heartbroken. It's human nature to feel betrayed and angry.
That pain shouldn't cause you to be afraid of people. Just change your expectation of people.
How do you know that your boyfriend or husband never cheated on you? You just trust that he didn't. With people, how do you know that what they are telling you is true?
You're just going to take their word for it. However, you're not going to be naive. You don't 100% trust what people are telling you. Even though you're not acknowledging it, you're willing to be skeptical.
Be willing to take risks when you know that you can survive the consequences. You have to realize that you're stronger than you think.
Challenges help you grow. It's all about you knowing that you can deal with the pain. You embrace the pain because you know how you can grow from it.
Find a sadistic pleasure in being heartbroken because you know what's ahead of you.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.