You could hold a lot of power in knowing how to talk about your ex because you could use him as competition. He could be somebody you can use to drive up your value.
It's one of the laws of nature where whenever there is competition, it naturally raises the value of the prize being competed on.
One of the best ways to increase your value as a person in terms of attractiveness is just to create the illusion that other people want you, other people loved you in the past, or that you only love certain people.
I'm going to show you how to use your ex. This is a dark tactic but it's an opportunity that a lot of people waste.
I came up with this topic because I remember what my ex-girlfriend did. She told me about how she loved her ex-boyfriend. She talked about how their relationship ended because he cheated on her. She had to break up with him. She also said that it was hard for her to break up because she loved him. Throughout my relationship with her, I kept comparing myself to him because she never said ‘I love you.’
I kept asking myself ‘why does she love him but doesn't love me?’ That's the thought I had.
Every single time I was with her, I kept thinking ‘do I match up with him yet?’, ‘does she love me now?’
The reason is she didn't talk s*** about her ex. She talked about a lot of good things about him.
She talked so good about him that it made me insecure. When you talk to a dude about your ex, always say good things about your ex. Don't say he was a loser. Say he was a good looking guy. Say that he cheated on you and you had to break up with him.
Deep down, your dude is going to think about you breaking up with him if he ever cheats on you.
You created competition. Remember, as soon as a guy thinks nobody stands a chance of getting you, he's gonna stop putting in effort.
The reason why guys stop putting in effort is because you validated them too much.
You don't give him space to miss you and you don't give him any competition. You don't give him anything to worry about. For somebody to always value you, they should always be insecure about where they stand.
If it's something of value, it means that other people want it. It's that fear of losing you that will keep him motivated to stay in shape. It is what will keep him continuing to try to impress you.
That's only done by keeping him insecure about where he stands. The way that you do that is by creating competition.
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