Let's talk about the red flags that, if you see in a dude, you better get the fuck out as soon as possible. Problems happen when you see a red flag, but you want things to work so badly so you ignore it.
The first flag is the cheating past. You have to find out if a dude cheated in the past. You have to be indirect about this. If you want to find out if somebody cheated, don't give him the impression that you're looking for a relationship. If you do, he will change up what he’s saying based on your expectations. Give the vibe that you want something casual. Then you can ask questions such as ‘have you ever hurt someone?’ and ‘what's the worst thing you've ever done in a relationship?’ Be playful. Have a few drinks. Let him relax and then throw out these questions casually. Make it playful but deep down you're thinking ‘alright motherfucker, tell me.’ If he tells you he cheated on someone, he's going to do it again. Take that as a red flag.
Demanding a lot of your time before you guys are anything. Nothing annoys me more than hearing about my clients getting into relationships with people that they barely know. Don't be won over so easily. If a dude wants to spend a lot of time with you too early on, there’s something emotionally wrong with him that you cannot fix. Hopefully, when this happens, your female instinct will make you lose interest in him. However, some women will recognize that as flattery. The problem is when you're needy and you get this kind of attention. It can become intoxicating. If you're one of those people, notice that it's a flaw that you have. At least now you know that you're on the wrong path.
He’s broke. This is based on his age and context. If he's a college student, this is fine. If he's in his mid-twenties, find out what's going on. Did he just get out of a job? Is he actually working on his goals? Is he good with what he does? Look at what he's doing. Is he really on his way to something big? What I would say to a guy who is broke is to get your finances in order first. No woman wants to be with a guy who is broke. Don't be fooled with people‘s excuses. People tend to justify their failures. Sometimes, you want to believe them because they look like a good catch. You shouldn't because, most likely, they're lying to your a**.
Oversharing. Again, this only applies at the beginning. This is when he tells you too much information about his life or his plans. A guy might introduce you to his family right away. This makes me remember that time when I was dating a very pretty girl. She was a bit crazy though, since during the first day she wanted to move in with me. She wanted us to get our own place somewhere in Harlem. In any normal state, you’ll find that this situation is creepy. However, when you're needy, you’ll find this flattering. You have to be aware when you're in this state so that you could judge the things that happen with a better perspective.
Jealousy. Again, when you're needy, you feel good about this, thinking that somebody cares for you. You have to really make an effort to open your eyes.
Talking bad about exes. I'm very suspicious about people who only talk bad about people, but never at least blame themselves for the problem. I'm always very suspicious with those kinds of people.
It doesn't matter how good looking he is or how big you think his dick is. If you want a good relationship, pay attention to these signs.
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