The way we treat the people that we like and don't like really fascinates me. The difference is so obvious, but the crazy thing is that we don't notice it. Think back at the people who were most obsessed with you. You didn't like them.
I'm a very observant person when it comes to people - particularly now when I don't like the person.
One of the things that happens when you don't like a person, is you don't look at them that much. You don't look at them because you don't find them attractive. When I don't like a person, I look at them, but I look away a lot more. That affects people because looking at someone gives them energy and life. With guys that you don't like, what they experience is a form of neglect. This happens in a very unconscious way.
They feel a sense of neglect and they want to gain that validation from you.
I have this friend who is so cold in text, but very warm in person. I follow him on Instagram but he doesn't follow me. It's obvious that he doesn't like me. You would think that I would say ‘my self-esteem is so high that I don't want to deal with this.’ In reality, it's more like ‘why doesn't he like me?’ It makes no sense. There's no reason why he shouldn't like me.
I was surprised that he didn't pay much attention to me. I was fascinated and a bit pissed off with how my brain reacted to that. (He probably hated that I used to buy weed at a discount from him.)
If you start focusing on other people more than the person that you like, that person would wonder if you liked him. As crazy as this is, it makes a person like you.
When you don't validate a person, they would be constantly thinking why you don't like them. That is what makes people like you.
Know the anomalies in dating that you should pay attention to.
Pay attention when a person of the same sex makes you feel insecure. Pay attention to what led to that. It's what causes people to fall in love when you don't want them to fall in love.
If someone ignores you, you will feel that the other person has a higher value and is unique. He is not that special. You only think it because he made you feel insecure.
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