Rejection hurts because it doesn't reflect the idea you have of yourself. Let me give you some ways how to overcome rejection. The more you're able to deal with rejection in a light-hearted way, the better your self-esteem is.
See the inner child in them: One of the reasons women have trouble with rejection is that they imagine the person who's rejecting them as greater than who they are. That's a reflection of one's self-esteem. So a simple solution is to change your perception of the man who's rejecting you. See them as a child. You never get offended if a child rejects you. So by simply changing how you see them, it'll have a powerful effect on how you react to their rejection.
Ask yourself empowering questions: When you get rejected by a guy, most of the time you tend to ask yourself "why did he reject me?" and these questions elicit emotional responses that are disempowering and bad in the long run. Rather than asking yourself that question, ask yourself a question that empowers you like "how can I learn from this?" or "how can I use this to grow?". If you keep asking yourself these questions, you'll inevitably find the answer that empowers you.
Another thing to know is that they’re not rejecting you, but rejecting the idea of being with you.
If you get rejected, and I know, the feeling of rejection sucks and hurts, all you got to do is do a technique called EMDR. When you feel the emotion of rejection, just move your eyes up and down. Focus and feel the rejection, notice where it is and move your eyes in different directions. By focusing on the emotion and by moving your eyes, the emotion will begin changing and it will be an emotion of peace.
Another thing to use for rejection is presence. It makes me become present to the moment. The reason why rejection sucks so bad is that you're holding on to the past. The problem with focusing on the past is that you're neglecting the present moment. The more you resist something, the more it persists. By looking at the past, you try to run from the present moment.
Rather than using your memories and thoughts in order to find your happiness, feel better, and overcome rejection, what you need to do is to just focus and feel the emotion. Notice how heavy the emotion is, the more you get to the present moment and after a while, you'll be at peace.
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