So what do you do if a guy tells you to go lose weight?
Look, I used to be very skinny and there's this one girl I was talking to who told me he loved guys who were strong. I didn't get offended, I actually loved it because it gave me the motivation to impress her but I was doing it consciously. Why? I know my brain gets motivated if I try to impress a female.
There are two different perspectives. There's the perspective of losing weight because you want to do it for your man, to please him and for him to accept you and there's losing weight for your man because you know that if you do it for your man, it'll give you the motivation. It's two different things.
The difference is doing it unconsciously. What I'm saying is work out and see if he has a point. If he has a point, then you should consider it. But then, ask yourself why you're doing it, are you doing it to impress him or are you doing it just to lose weight? If you want to work out to impress him, do it but be conscious of your actual goal.
Another side of the story is that he's an asshole for asking you to lose weight. There are better ways to tell a girl that she should go to the gym. There are literally just things you have to be sensitive about because what happens is that it mess up with people's self-esteem. It's fucked up for him but he's being honest. Some guys have types and if you don't meet that type, he won't be attracted.
If a guy tells you to lose weight, you should definitely do it. It's a win-win. Yeah, it's a little fucked up the way he put it but make it an opportunity to get healthy. If it actually makes you insecure, let that insecurity be the motivation for you to go work out but do it consciously.
Be aware of what's actually motivating you and come from a place of acceptance.
If he doesn't like you after, that's fine! At least you got in shape, you did something good for yourself. It's a win-win.
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