This is based on a situation experienced by a client. She said that she's always followed my advice. She knows the kind of guy that she wants. She said that she left the guys that she liked (I don’t think this was a good idea). She thought that they may be fuckboys or perhaps she was afraid of being abandoned. She says that beyond everything, she has a problem with being needy.
This neediness attacks whenever she's alone. Her mind starts making scenarios. She imagines other girls, other people from the past. She does have friends, a social life, a job, and hobbies. She meditates and works on herself mentally. She says that fear consumes her and she can't distract herself.
She can't stop thinking about a guy. She can't stop going nuts. She likes the guy so much saying that it's so rare to meet someone like this.
She can't detach from the outcome, although she insists that she does have self-esteem.
She says that she can get any guy and that guys are constantly hitting on her. She never gets to the commitment part despite doing everything right.
She works so much on her mind, but she can't help going nuts.
I advised her to go to therapy. She needs to go to a professional and have someone that she can talk to.
She needs somebody that can listen to her. I recommend that she go to a therapist and have weekly talks with them. Her thoughts are really giving her a hard time.
This issue seems to be deep and may be related to some childhood stuff that happened in the past.
I also recommended that she read the book Mastery by Robert Greene. I used to have a tough time being alone. My brain wanted to engage in something creative. As soon as I discovered art, all those fears, insecurities, and disappointments went away. I could just focus on the art. I could control whether or not I got better.
You need to find something like that for yourself. Find something that you can improve on, on a daily basis. What's going on is that you have a lot of energy. If you don't use that energy, it turns against you. It animates your thoughts and imagination. It creates images in your head that confirm your insecurities.
Find out that one thing you can do that makes everything else go away. For me, it was art. That thing will be your anchor. You need creativity in your life so you can express your emotions in better ways.
I also sent her a video by Eckhart Tolle called The Pain Body that I want her to watch whenever she feels bad.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.