Let's talk about the power of being single. This is about our perspective of life. In the society that we live in today, we place a lot of value in finding someone. We perpetuate the belief that in order to be happy we need to have a partner. There's a correlation between single and being in a relationship.
We place a lot of value on being with someone because we correlate unhappiness with being single. In our minds, we see a single person walking alone kicking an empty can listening to sad songs. That's what we've been associating ourselves so when we're single, we feel sad. We see couples walking around and feel bad about it because we compare ourselves.
There's an added sense of sadness simply because of the label that there is. We associate not being attractive to being single. We associate being something wrong with us because we're single.
What's the solution to this? What we need to do is to learn to be comfortable being single.
A lot of times, people use a relationship to masquerade their sadness. We seek validation from people to make us happy. This is why people don't like being single, they don't want to confront what's really going on with them.
Rather than being single and actually get to know ourselves, we hop on different relationships because we don't want to face unhappiness or we don't want to be judged.
I think the real solution is to keep trying and never give up accepting the unacceptable. Become comfortable with being alone.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.