I once had a friend who did jiu-jitsu with me who was short and cute. I had a crush on her. Her angelic look makes guys want to comfort her paternally and the dark side creates that polarity. It adds depth.
The innocence and vulnerability will attract their attention, but your dark side turns it into an obsession. That’s why being overly masculine as a woman isn’t that good, you need to have feminine to counterbalance it. Guys like that because it’s a repressed home sexual desire.
To fix it you must hint that you’re complex to such a point that knowing you take longer than a week or two. Insinuate that you provide pleasure and they will keep going until you say so.
Become a walking paradox by looking one way and being the other. People like it because humans want things to make sense. They become curious when there’s a discontent, a lack of continuity that they have to put together. If you’re too obvious, people will lose interest.
If you show too much too fast, they’ll become interested, but lose interest afterward. It’s contradicting. Remember, no one is mysterious by nature, you have to put effort. So show one part of your character obviously, and then the other. For me, I’m nice but manipulative. As long as you show a sign of what you are not it’s okay if it's dark, it’s seductive.
The key to making this work is you must make them imagine about you and think of you. This can be done by the way you dress, a sexy glance or something contradicting about you. It has to be done in the beginning and when they hardly know you so that they can fill those blanks with you and they begin imagining you.
Do it by making yourself a surprise by being contradicting. If you are a little “slut” put a masquerade of a “nice girl”. You can also create this mystery by being mysterious and vague. Be open with your friends (having a nickname) and closed with him (not letting him call you by your nickname), create that distance. Another way is being studios and having a dirty mouth. Be stubborn and then agreeable. But it only works when it’s hinted or else if it's too obvious it’ll threaten the person.
You can also try being masculine when getting his attention, and then being feminine like asking him to come over, and then being sexual but not having sex.
Have physical warmth and emotional coldness.
Also, if you are known for one quality - a reputation - show the other. Act contrite, act as you changed. If you’re a ghetto gangster, hint at intelligence.
You can also tell them that you want them, but push them away or creating an obstacle that they have to overcome, even though you want to make it happen.
These contradictions make guys think of you more than you are. You become their fantasy. They’ll see things that aren’t there simply because of their fascination.
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