A client asked for advice because her man would go to his ex, instead of her, whenever he feels depressed.
She can't stay with this dude. He trusts his ex more. It's over. This is unacceptable. She needs to break up with him.
This is disrespectful and you can't let anybody do this to you. Generally, with disrespect, you have to have a list of things that you will and will not accept. Think about all of the relationships you’ve had. Notice the signs that meant the other person wasn't good.
Let's say you had a failed relationship and you remember some signs that led to this. What are the signs? What are those subtle instances of disrespect? Turn those into things that you will and will not accept.
You will not accept a dude who is still friends with his ex. Have a list of clear and defined things so that when the moment comes that you get disrespected, you don't need to choose how to react. You won't have to act based on fear of losing him. You'll react based on the protocol that you thought of when you were thinking rationally.
It makes decision-making a lot easier.
You have to really think about the things that you will and will not accept. Also have some things that you’re willing to compromise.
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