Make people fear losing you. That is the most important thing that you have to instill in people. It is indicative of your value.
It starts with your mentality. You have to not fear losing him. This will automatically increase your value.
The next step is learning to be independent. Be self-sufficient by understanding that you could deal with the pain of not being with him. That comes through you dealing with challenges and facing life's problems. Develop that muscle so that when the time of losing him comes, you're able to deal with it. This means having a good social circle of friends who can support you. You have a purpose in life that gives you happiness intrinsically.
When you have that in place it allows you to deal with the blows from losing a guy.
You also need to have a hint of coldness to your personality. Have you ever hung around with somebody who you feel can live without you? That's what I'm talking about. I'm always telling you guys to be hot and cold. I always tell you to withdraw from a guy from time to time. Take a day to yourself.
The first kind of withdrawal you have to have is something subtle. That's giving people the feeling that you can live without them. The way do this is you control when you would text somebody. One way you can do this is to not double text. Second, always wait 3 to 5 hours before replying to the first text message of the day. After that, take 15 to 20 minutes to respond the next 3 times. After that, go back to 3 to 5 hours.
This type of texting shows him that you have a life. You're busy. Don't ever tell a guy that you don't have things to do. Always have hobbies.
He needs to start valuing your time. He can't just say let's hang out today. Anytime he says let's hang out tomorrow, you always say no to that. You want to tell him ‘hey, I already have plans for tomorrow. How about 3 days from now?’ Never hang out on the same day or the next day as his invitation. Do this in the first month or two of meeting him.
We're trying to increase your value here.
When you're talking to him initially, say ‘may I know if you're seeing other people? It's ok to see other people because we're just getting to know each other.’ When you say this, he'll be thinking that you're also seeing other people. You might say that you don't want to seem like a slut. It’s fine because you're single. He has no place to say what you can or cannot do.
This is the beginning of the relationship so there's no jealousy. If there is jealousy, you just did yourself a favor. Now you know you should get out of this.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.