My client met a guy (let’s call him Jay) through an online dating site, but during this time, she was dating another guy.
Later, she broke up with her guy and messaged Jay because she is coming back to town. Jay was in Israel for his job and he invited her there. They spent the week together. Before she left Israel, she asked him if they were in a relationship. He said no. He does want to keep in contact.
(She made a big mistake on this one. Girls should never ask this.)
She moved back to the state where she originally met Jay. He contacted her almost every day and they met once a week.
She asked him if he was free on a Sunday and he said ‘I will let you know.’
He contacted her on Sunday afternoon and said that he was free. They decided to go to the gym together. Afterwards, they planned to get dinner. She took a shower in the gym, but he forgot his clothes so he went back home. As she was getting ready, he called her saying that he has an emergency with his family. They had to cancel the dinner. Later that night, he texted asking if she was free to meet. He said that he will book a hotel and they can meet there. The hotel is only 5 minutes away from his house. He said that his room is messy so she can’t come to his house. They spent the night together. (She shouldn't have come.)
When she got home, she texted him that she thinks he's dating someone else. He says that he's getting accused for something he's not doing and that she's too emotional. Now he just wants to be friends with her. She said he doesn't know her yet so they should try. He said that he has already made up his mind. He needed some distance. She gave him space for a few weeks and they started texting again. She's asking what she needs to do to get him back.
(It's over. What he did to her was very disrespectful. He was also changing dates around and she just said yes. The problem was that she was too needy. Anytime a guy says ‘maybe’ to you, you say ’maybe?’ When he says he may need to work, you say ’let's try some other time. When your schedule clears up, let me know.’)
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