A client of mine has been dating her coworker for 7 months. She didn't want anything serious at first, but she fell in love with him. She realized that he only wanted to f***. She told him how she felt, but he said that he didn't want a relationship. He likes what they have.
She told him that she's done seeing him, but he acts like she never said that. He messages her every day and she goes to his house once in a while. At work, he still grabs her ass, kisses her and shows affection. He gets jealous when other co-workers talk to her. She wants to know why he’s afraid to be with her. She knows he wants her and she wants to make it official. She used to be his priority, but now she's not.
Right now she wants something that the guy doesn't want. The current situation is not actually being forced upon her. She needs to think that it's either her way or the highway.
She caught feelings for him and she wants something more, but since he doesn't, then it should be over.
She shouldn't have told him that she wanted something more in the first place. Instead, she needs to offer something that will make him chase her. That thing is validation. People live on validation. If you stop giving it, they will come closer to get it back.
She needs to pull away at this point. She needs to send him a clear message, be completely indifferent to him and not let him touch her.
She should not just express this through her words but show it through her actions. If he touches her, she can say 'hey, don't touch the merchandise. This s*** ain't for free.’ If she has to act like a bitch then she has to do so.
Nothing makes you more sad than seeing another side of someone who you thought you knew. It surprises you when you suddenly see coldness from someone you've been dating. It hurts. It makes you want to see that warm side when things were going great.
This is all under her control. However, I do understand that when you love someone, it's difficult.
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