This client of mine who lives in Delaware got to meet a guy based in Detroit. He would text her a lot and would even visit her in her state. Now he doesn't text her as much.
She got too caught up with the times when they were together. Anytime a guy takes too long to reply to a girl, it means low interest. It doesn't mean she's not attractive. It's just that she's too available. She's clearly reacting to him emotionally.
I suggested that she start texting him slower in the following week. When she first receives a text message, she needs to wait at least 5 hours before sending a reply. After that, take 20 minutes before sending each of the next 3 replies. Then, go back to replying after 5 hours. She has to remove all the hahas, lols and regular emoticons in her text messages. He might start chasing her after this.
After a week of this, she needs to ghost him. I told her to stop texting him for two weeks during this time. She can disappear for 2 weeks and tell him that she's been sick or somebody in her family has been sick. He can understand that. She needs to cancel their next meet up as well.
It might hurt her to do this, but she has to know why she's doing it. She's currently acting emotionally and not thinking rationally. If you like somebody and they canceled on you, you're going to like them more. You'll end up thinking about them more.
It would be even better if she waited until the day of the date to cancel on him. She can tell him her grandma is sick.
He's going to think that she's starting to lose her. This will make him remember all the memories they've had together.
She needs to act normal and be polite with him. It's still 'on' although her actions may say otherwise. We want to test what he does when she disappears. Does he pursue her? Does he show more interest? Or does he act like nothing happened?
After 2 weeks of ghosting, she needs to wait for a double text from him, then say ‘I didn't like the way things ended. How are you going to make it up to me?’
If he doesn't try to make it up with her then she's out.
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