1. The jealous type
There’s no denying that being in a long-distance relationship will provoke feelings of jealousy and insecurity.
You might be on your man’s Facebook, and suddenly notice a certain female who’s always commenting and liking all his posts.
Your mind will then fill in the blank based on your insecurities and this is not fun. You obsessively think about whether or not he’s cheating on you with her. You will also compare yourself to her and it will become a living nightmare. Nothing that he says will comfort your feeling of jealousy and insecurity.
If this is you then long distance relationships truly aren’t for you.
2. Low self-esteem
Having low self-esteem mean’s you’re constantly trying to find validation through other people’s reaction - particularly your man’s reaction. But if he’s not constantly around to validate you then you will become needier and more clingy to your man.
This will inevitably sabotage your relationships in the present and in the future.
3. High sex drive
If you’re the type of woman who loves having sex then long-distance relationships might not be for you. You might grow frustrated at the fact that your man isn’t around often enough to satisfy your high sex drive.
This lack of sex might drive you to make bad decisions, such as cheating or even breaking up with him because it’s too difficult to stay faithful while wanting to release some tension.
4. The need to win every battle
If you’re the type that argues about everything that comes up and you never learned the concept of ‘losing the battle to win the war’ then you’re going to struggle with maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship with your boyfriend.
Constantly arguing creates gaps of silence and absence in a long-distance relationship that ends up being the downfall of the relationship.
5. You’ve been cheated on in the past
This is almost every person’s fear - being cheated on. If you’ve been cheated on and haven’t healed, then you’ll be living in a state of constant paranoia. That means your mind will keep creating mental scenarios where he might be cheating and that will drive you and him crazy.
6. You’re looking for something stable and consistent
If you’re looking to settle down and find something that’s ready to roll, then a long-distance relationship isn’t what you’re looking for. You need a relationship that's ready-made. In other words, you need a relationship where you can physically meet on a consistent basis without planning weeks in advanced.
Proximity is the number 1 reason why relationships begin between a man and a woman.
7. You just came out of a relationship
If you’re on the rebound and a long distance relationship is the next best option, relax, take a deep breathe and take some time to yourself. You don’t want to get attached to another dude who you can’t physically spend time with while you’re still in love with another guy.
This kind of scenario only sparks up your neediness and depletes your self-esteem.
Its best to remain present in your pain and not externalize it or else it’ll become part of your personality and, thus, sabotage more future relationships.
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