A client of mine has been dating her boyfriend for a year. She notices that when he's around other girls he finds attractive, he sort of shows off. It makes her insecure and she wants to know how she should confront it.
She doesn't want to feel like this every time he's around girls. She wants to stop overthinking.
I told her to ask her friends if they see what she sees. She needs someone else's perspective.
He may have been acting naturally and doesn't notice it. As long as he's not touching them or being physically flirty, it’s ok.
Just ask your friends because you need to know if you're in the right. Don't ask his friends since they have allegiance to him.
Also ask yourself if maybe you're wrong so you can keep your emotions in check. You won't be letting your insecurities dictate what you see.
You have to understand how you also behave with guys. You're a girl so you know how charming that smile could be. You know how hard it is for a guy to say no. You know the power that comes with being a woman.
You use that power from time to time. You may not be flirting with guys, but you’re doing it because you can do it. It could be just like that.
Think of it from your perspective. You might be doing the same thing, but you don't think of it because you're a girl. You create that reaction from people without even wanting to.
If you see yourself doing it, you can get into your mentality to understand why you're doing it.
Hopefully, you’ll understand him.
However, if he has cheated in the past, this shit would be the tip of the iceberg. If your relationship is good and this is the only problem you've had, then I wouldn’t bring it up to him.
Talk to your close friends and see what they think and make your decision based on that.
If a part of you feels that he may be going too far, don't tell him to stop. Just say ‘Hey, look, we're done.’
The reason why I tell you to break up with guys is if they're really interested in you, they will come back. This also lets a guy know that there's a high cost of f****** up so he's going to f*** up less..
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