This is one of the things that people don't like because when you talk about becoming desired it means that people want you and they can't have you. You're almost like a tease to them.
In order for someone to desire you, you have to inflict pain properly. You can't really say that there’s such a thing as loving someone without a sense of fear of losing them. You treat someone better when there is that fear.
Have a coldness to your personality. Show them your dark side, but from time to time give them a glimpse of your sweet side. You can do this by not smiling too much. It will make people want to do something to make you smile. Your smile will have more worth than somebody who smiles all the time. Notice how you behave when you don't like someone. Pay attention to your body language, how you feel, how much you talk. Notice everything about you when you don't like someone. What you notice is you're completely different. When you start liking someone, you begin to open up. They begin to take you for granted because they don’t have to work for the emotions they used to work for.
Create a triangle of love. Interacting with other guys could create insecurity in a man if they consider him his competition. When another man seems like he desires you, your guy is going to want you more. Do this by talking about your ex in a very good way. Also have a minor crush on a celebrity who looks the opposite of how he looks.
Mixed signals. Be a woman who is feminine, but has a little bit of masculinity to her. Look dumb, but be smart. Einstein looks crazy, but he is a genius. These paradoxes make you stand out. Learn how to tailor your image properly. Know who you are and find a way to be interested in something that's outside of yourself. Have curiosity for other things. An example is girls who like gaming.
Replaceability. Make people think that they're replaceable. You value your job more, when you know that your manager can easily replace you. On the other side of the spectrum are the best athletes who act like a drama queen. Break up with people who take you for granted. Have a mental standard that if the other person does a particular thing, you will leave.
Learn to say no. When a person always says yes, you think of them more as a robot. When you don't like someone you say ‘no’ to them a lot. Saying this will make the other person realize that they're dealing with a human being.
A lot of the things that we do when we like someone goes against what we should do to make them like us.
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