My client got a guy’s number and asked him out. He was working 6 days a week and she thought that it was sweet of him to ask for a day off just to go out with her. They had a nice day and they seemed to really get along. At the end of the date, she brought up the topic of getting together again.
He said that they could do something when he comes back from a guys’ trip.
She didn't hear back from him since then. After five days, she messaged him if he was already on the trip. He said yes and she said ‘Let me know when you come back.’
During this time, he would watch all her stories on Snapchat.
When he came back, he apologized that he couldn't text her because he lost his phone for 3 days. He said that the trip was crazy.
She never heard back from him since then. She asked her friends what to do and they said that she should try to ask him out.
She asked him out, and they were supposed to go out for dinner, but he canceled on it 3 hours in advance. He asked what other days she is available.
She said that he seems to not be enthusiastic about meeting up. He apologized and said that they should go out sometime. She didn't reply.
However, 5 days after not getting an invitation from him, she texted him about when he is available. He said that he is busy.
The next day, he said that he is available on Thursday. She said she’s available as well.
She doesn't understand where things stand because the vibe she got from their date was that he liked her a lot.
It seems that she just didn't give him enough time. I recommended that she shouldn't compliment men on dates.
I told her: when you're out with a guy, don't try to impress him. Don't try to be funny. Don't try to be interesting.
Don't make your body face him when you’re sitting near each other. Show zero interest on the first date.
After the date, no matter how amazing it was, don't text him first. Take at least a day to respond after the first date.
Right now she is showing too much interest.
If he says he had a great time, say ‘I'm glad you had a great time.’
When you text him, don't initiate the date. It doesn't matter how long it takes but you should never ask him out.
Give him space to chase you. If you validate him too much, he's going to take you for granted.
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