Validating men means showing all of your cards. It means showing him how much you really care.
I'm not saying that it's bad to show vulnerability. I'm saying that it's bad to do it out of reaction. It's not good to act needy just because a guy doesn't text you back.
Guys will respect you as long as you don't give them what they want. I'm not talking about sex. I'm talking about emotional validation.
Women validate men in very simple ways. If you know how to control your emotions, you will not be validating men.
On the date, do not show too much interest. It's ok if you look boring. If guys are ghosting you, it doesn't mean you're boring. It just means you were too needy.
A girl I went out with did this right when her body language didn't show she liked me. She would talk to me in a monotone voice. From time to time, she would show interest, but she would never initiate contact.
When you're on a date with a guy, don't compliment him. Don't try to impress him. You want him to ask why you're not talking so much.
A guy will want to see a good reaction from you. He wants to see from your face that you like him. He's going to say things to make you laugh. He will try to improve your emotion. Without him knowing, he is working and chasing you.
If you don't give him that validation, that kiss, that touch, he's going to continue chasing. Your responsibility is to keep those open loops open as much as possible.
You can take away a guy’s validation by complimenting him and then giving him a backhanded compliment. You can say ‘You're a strange guy. I like that’ and then change the subject.
Don't let him process that. Let him process it during the conversation.
When you meet him, rather than compliment him, you can say ‘Oh, you don't look like your photos. Anyway, nice to meet you.’ Don't validate him.
Don't tell him it's not that he's ugly, he just looks better in person. Let him figure it out.
If you had a good date, don't text him right away. Make him wait for a few days. It will make him think about why he hasn't heard from you.
If you do validate him, strip it away with a backhanded compliment.
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