When women meet men, they go into a relationship with a certain agenda in mind. The problem occurs when your agenda doesn't meet his agenda.
When a person isn't compatible with you, but you still like them, you try to change them. Trying to change a man's values is the biggest mistake that a woman makes when meeting a man.
A guy might be in a phase in his life where he doesn't value relationships. Perhaps he just recently got out of a relationship or he just wants to be single.
Your agenda is you want to be in a committed relationship. You may not try to change him in the beginning, but you do it eventually - slowly but surely.
I talk about this a lot in my course The Psychological Game of Attraction. One of the most important things I teach there is that you cannot force people to change their values in life.
You have to allow life to change their values. Sometimes they could be the perfect guy for you, but if his values are not in line with yours, it won't work out.
A guy could value commitment or he could value having sex. Whatever the case may be, there's nothing you can do about that.
Life sometimes happens and he falls in love with you, but that's something out of your control. You don't know what kind of relationship status he wants deep inside.
Let people be who they are and don't try to change them. When you try to change people, you become frustrated. The frustration will make you try even harder.
This happens when you don't read the signs. People cannot be forced to change.
Only life and biology can make it happen.
When you meet a guy, but he's not on your own place, you have to get out of that scarcity mentality and let him go.
A lot of women come to me asking about how to change a guy. Sometimes a guy does change, but only under certain circumstances. It's a situation where a guy did want something but he didn't really tell her.
Learn how to test the guy out. A big part of getting to know someone is knowing their values. One of the ways to do that, as I taught in my course, is to notice who he admires. Notice where he derives his self-esteem from.
You have to give yourself time in getting to know a guy. Have an open mind. Meet other people to insulate you from easily getting attached to one person.
This will give you more perspective by comparing other people's traits to him.
Don't try to change guys and people in general.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.