As I was working on my course The Psychological Game of Attraction, I saw an interesting post on my Facebook group. A quote said that when a man is truly interested in you, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue women.
Yes. You can pursue a man if you want to but, in most cases, that's an obvious sign that he's not into you. It's not natural for a man sit back and let the woman do the work.
For a man who claims to like you to sit back and allow you to do the calling, texting, dating arrangements, talks about the future, it's pretty obvious where you stand in that man's life.
When a man really wants you, you won't have to chase after him like he's some celebrity who barely has time for a fan. You will be his priority.
What men want is the opportunity to chase and the opportunity to win. It's not just about chasing. It's about chasing and winning.
The reward makes the hard work pleasurable. Guys want a woman who lets them chase. The problem is that you let your insecurities dictate your actions.
I want you to be adaptable emotionally. I want you to be able to handle a guy who takes a long time to text back and a guy who doesn't.
When he takes a long time to text back, you have to learn to put your foot down and punish that behavior by taking twice as much time to text him back.
When you fear losing a guy, you would go along with it. He could be intentionally doing this to make you chase. If you fall for it, he has you.
What he really wants is a challenge. What he really wants is to say that this girl is confusing him and he needs to figure her out.
He wants that challenge because the reward of getting you makes him feel that he worked for you. It gives him personal pride. It boosts his self-esteem.
When you boost a guy’s self-esteem, he will automatically become more attached to you.
You have to stop chasing the guy. When you feel like you have to chase a guy to get him interested, that means he doesn't really like you that much.
Test him by not chasing him. If he doesn't chase you and he doesn't make any plans, it means he doesn't like you.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.