So you made it this far. He likes you. There's some attraction. This is where a lot of women will get comfortable. I don't want you to do that.
I want you to use this technique two times. One, use it when you feel like he's interested and you feel like you guys really like each other but just not enough. You want to see where you stand with him.
Two, you want to use this when there’s strong emotions - the peak of the relationship.
It's all about making a future projection that sounds believable and that you have a real plan.
Let me tell you about the lonely fantasy. It's about telling a guy about your plans - the plans in your future that doesn't include him.
Let's say that everything is going well in your relationship and you live in the same city. You tell your guy that you're planning to go to another city next year to study. Then, you change the topic. You simply state that as one of your plans.
In his mind, he's going to feel a fear of one day losing you. As things get closer, you start applying for school and talk to him about how exciting it's going to be. You don't really have to go. You just talk to him about it.
It's like telling a person that he might go to jail. He is going to feel anxious before the trial date.
If you tell him that you’re going to leave one day, it will make him have an intense love and passion for you. Underneath that is the fear of losing you.
Tell him about your future plans that do not include him and you let that do the work. If you do this, you're going to notice a huge difference in his behavior. He might even try to move with you.
He might try to get closer to you a lot faster. He'll think that if you ever leave, the bond will be strong enough for you guys to continue keeping in touch. It's a powerful thing.
Make sure that it's a plan that will be hard for him to be a part of. An example would be when he has a two-year lease on an apartment and he can't move out.
Give him the vibe that you want something more with him, but also talk about moving somewhere.
That fear of losing you will amplify the attraction that he has for you.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.