Once you know a guy, you can really interact with him without losing your sense of self in the process. We're going to go about it in a very indirect manner. It's called pre-seeding the attraction.
You have to create interest in a comforting way. It's a way that doesn't really communicate too much interest.
It's all about going the indirect route and making him wonder what's really going on. This will allow his imagination to do the rest.
You want to use this when you're in the friend zone and you want him to see you as sexual. Do this when you feel like the guy has lost interest in you and you want to raise your value or when you’ve f***** up or you feel you’ve become too needy.
You also want to use this when you are the one chasing and he is not. You want to change the dynamics and turn the table against him.
This principle is about sparking interest from a place of no interest.
It's all about sending subtle mixed messages. Use this aggressively when you want to create interest. Once you've done that, you just lower this down BIG time.
The strategy we'll be using is slow-slow-fast-fast. When you're slow-slow-slow, they expect the next one to be slow. Since they expect it slow, you suddenly hit it real FAST. That fast move will work since you’ve lulled them to sleep.
Find out his weaknesses by getting to know him. Once you do, lure him into an attack by making him underestimate you. This means making him think that he has you.
You send him mixed signals, but he's only going to notice the good signs you're giving him.
Now, you've made him come to you. Now you have so much leverage. Strike unexpectedly by backing off or changing pace. Change the dynamics and don't be left startled.
Let's say that you wanted to ask him out. You become his friend, but as you do, you also show signs that indiscriminately shows that you like him.
Then, you show other signs of not liking him like being indifferent and talking about other guys that you dated.
Show him more signs that you like him until he thinks that he's figured you out. Then, when he goes for the kiss, you back off. Say, ‘What are you doing? Slow down. We're just friends.’
When he thinks he's in the friend zone, you go back to showing interest. He will think that he likes you too.
Since you did something unexpected, you lured him to make the first move. He felt disappointed and then you came back.
That step that you took is now even more rewarding.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.