I think addiction to love is a real and serious addiction and to me, the foundation of dysfunctional relationships.
When you're addicted to the feeling of love, reality becomes distorted like a squinted gaze through a fog of emotions. When one relationship ends, you feel that emptiness that you continually run from, and you desperately seek that high, that escape, through another vessel of self-esteem... your next partner.
We essentially become objects of self-esteem.
My theory is that most people fall in love during a vulnerable time in their lives (teenage years). You are seeking yourself in other people's reactions, and once someone gives you a scintilla of attention, the feeling you get from it is extremely addictive. We seek it. Crave it. Want it by any means!
It happened to me a few times. It sucks. When you return to reality you realize how disillusioned you actually were. You think you love the person, but in reality, you're just addicted to the feeling. That feeling, somehow and someway, is helping you escape the pain.
But as the years passed by I realized that the only way to actually find love is to stop looking for it. You'll realize that you were only trying to feel at ease with yourself. You were just trying to love yourself vicariously through somebody else.
They become responsible for your happiness and when you happen to have a bad day, guess who's to blame? Your partner! That shit is real, man.
Learn to be at ease with yourself. Learn to be single and alone without needing anybody to fulfill you. Why seek fulfillment from someone who's also feeling empty? It's like the blind leading the blind.
Anywho, that's just a thought.