First of all, don't ever say ‘I love you’ first. Let your actions speak for themselves. When you say ‘I love you’ and he doesn't say it back, you’re putting yourself in a position of weakness.
When I said ‘I love you’ to a girl, she replied with ‘oh no.’ I thought about how I was going to work and when I came back I'll have to deal with her. What I should have done is tell her that she needs to go since we're not on the same page. I'm not going to stand for a relationship where I'm the one who loves her and she doesn't love me.
You're telling the other person to go, not because you're resentful. It's because you're not going to stand for that.
The first thing is that when you're in a relationship with a dude and he doesn't say ‘I love you’ back, you have to break up with that dude. That's disrespectful.
The second thing is that it shows strength. You're saying I love you, but I'm willing to lose you.
The third thing is that it makes him reconsider if he loves you because you're pushing him away.
It shows that you're not willing to put up with that. The dynamic has already been screwed up and the only way for you to recover is to break it up. When you're in a relationship and the guy doesn't say ‘I love you’ back, you're not on the same page.
Whenever you show interest, you also have to show coldness.
If you're with him during this time, say that you have to go. Don't text him back. Don't call him back. Make him beg. Make him come to you.
Make him say ‘what's going on baby? You know what, I thought about it. I love you.’ Then you say ‘I don't know about this anymore.’
That's how you turn the tables on these motherfuckers man.
You can't just linger. You have to get the fuck out.
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