How strong is your ego? The severity of your ego is a determinant of how happy you will be in life.
Notice what you want and what you don’t want others to know about you. The strength of your ego is based on how transparent you are to others.
How much do you hide your negative traits and how strong do you project the positive ones?
When I notice that a girl doesn't like me, I would find a way to somehow bring up my YouTube channel. I was aware of that natural compulsion.
Women, and some famous people do that too. They say that they have a nice car and stuff.
It's because they feel that that's how they can project value. They believe that who they are at the core is not enough.
Will she still like you if you didn't bring up your YouTube channel? A part of you would say no.
You start noticing that people don't really react to things. They will react to your energy and how they vibe with it.
It's fascinating that they like me more when I don't talk about YouTube. It's not because of YouTube itself. It’s because of how it's done for validation.
The less confident I feel, the more compulsion I have to talk about that positive trait.
People who are narcissists like to talk about themselves. You see a mirror image of their insecurity.
Notice the part of you that you want people to know really badly. What part of you, do you not want people to know? There lies your ego.
You need to begin to do the opposite of what that emotion says. Does it tell you to talk about yourself? Then, don't talk about yourself. If you are a marketer, say that you work at McDonald’s instead.
Whenever you feel superior or inferior to somebody else, that's the ego in you. When you perceive yourself as better than the next person, that person will react with their ego.
They may feel inferior to you or they're going to try to feel superior. Ego reacts to ego. You think you're getting to know the person, but you’re really getting to know their representative.
People don't relate to each other through perfection. That's not who we are. People relate to each other through pain and imperfection.
Humans connect at the level of pain closer than at the level of pleasure. Whenever you're in a difficult situation, you’ll get very close with whoever is close to you.
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