Social conditioning is a form of domestication to keep humans in order. It provides comfort and removes uncertainty. The problem is it makes us lose our inner ability to survive. It makes us weak.
Humans are made for challenges, but the society we live in is meant to give you comfort.
We've grown to trust authority. We lost the ability to depend on ourselves. We don’t think for ourselves because everything is given to us. We would just go with the flow.
Since we're inadequate with thinking for ourselves, we need someone else to do it.
When you think like everyone else, you only look at the surface level of things. When you learn to depend on somebody else for the way you should live your life or how to feel about yourself, you get addicted to their validation.
For you to overcome this, you have to see the world through your own eyes. You have to learn to question your beliefs. Consistently ask yourself, ‘Am I wrong?’ despite how certain you are.
There is a difference between real confidence and situational confidence.
Real confidence is not feeling superior. Real confidence is knowing that you're not different from everybody else. We are all blank slates. The only difference is the exterior.
The difference is how our brain is wired. It's wired depending on what you focus on and what you practice.
We're not different from everybody else. When you know that, then it's ok to suck. When you have real confidence, you know the process of learning. It involves sucking at your skill and feeling uncomfortable.
Once you get through that feeling, that's when the momentum hits and you start achieving your goal.
Situational confidence is based on circumstances and will always run to comfort when things get bad.
How confident you are is how you're able to handle pain and embrace it because you know what's behind that.
Realize that you can change things simply by knowing how to work with the matrix instead of working against it. Working against the matrix is being pissed off at the situation, feeling like the victim, and trying to force your way through it.
You know that you're beginning to stand out when people see you as different. The way you talk and the way you go about yourself is different. People begin to notice you because you begin to display a high level of skill in whatever craft you're focusing on.
I talk like this because I told myself that I'm going to trust the process. I'm going to do what the best people in the world did.
Go through the pain, see the outcome and take strong action.
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