Emotional and mental states can be infectious. Avoid them. Learn to test them.
The emotional attachment, the sympathy and the belief that they can improve and/or that they are the victim, causes you to want to help, but they’re beyond help.
You either collapse or cut it off. Which means that you will either lose confidence, and any healthy sense of self for the sake of helping him or you'll have to leave him and dump him. There's no solution to this outside of those two options.
First of all, don’t trust your instincts in knowing about this guy. If you can get actual facts about him, that’s good. Second, don’t trust appearances, especially when there’s abundance and things are good. The sign should be notice how much he blames others, notice how much the victim he is.
You will change when trying to help, but not them. Their ego hardens even more when people try to get help.
Also, the longer you are with him the more invested you are in him changing. This means that you’ll stay even when things look impossible.
Don’t associate with those who share your defects. If you’re sad, find someone who’s happy. If you’re not social, make friends with someone who is. Force yourself to be with a social person. But remember that states are infectious. That’s what you want.
If you're dealing with a narcissistic guy who thinks he's always right, let him go. Dump him. There's no better way out of abusive relationships outside of leaving them all together and having no contact at all with the guy.
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