A lot of this has to do with a guy’s level of insecurity. Women don't usually know if a guy is being crazy or he’s being a nice guy.
In the beginning, most people will not show you who they truly are. They will show you their representative. That representative doesn't really reflect who they are because it's only there for the people they recently met.
Something about guys who are ‘bad’ for you is that they are oversensitive and they have a lot of pride. They are very insecure.
Most guys have a good level of insecurity where It's not so severe that they would want to get revenge on you.
The problem is when you’re dealing with a guy who's so insecure that in order to feel good, he needs to validate himself by putting you down. That's the dangerous one. You have to look out for the signs before they occur.
Find out what he is insecure about. To test him, make a mild joke out of his insecurity. A confident person will laugh. An overly insecure one will react as if personally insulted.
Essentially, you have to poke his ego. See what happens.
Try to insult him in a very playful manner and just see how he reacts. It's important to let him react how he normally reacts.
Incite jealousy by talking about another guy. See if he tries to control you.
Don't text him for a few days. Literally get off his radar. See what he does. Does he get mad and ask who you're with or does he say he misses you? Those are two totally different reactions.
A lot of women will misconstrue jealousy and outright insecure behavior with love. There is a huge difference so you have to test the guy out.
You have to be willing to say, ‘Well, you failed so you're out.’ Lots of women are not willing to do that.
The problem is with your insecurities accepting guys like that. You always attract people based on your own self-esteem. If you're attracting negative guys like that then you have to realize that there's something within you that's being activated.
There's something in you that enjoys the overly insecure men because they validate you. You need more validation than most women.
That need is going to guide you towards destructive patterns and relationships. That's why you have to go inward. Connect with yourself at the level of pain and feel your pain rather than running away.
If the pain tells you to do one thing, do the opposite and you will find the right answer. Test the guy and if he fails, let him go.
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