This is the kind of rhythm that a guy's emotional response wants you to text him. I'm not talking about the guy himself, but about his pleasure sensor. This is what makes him excited when he hears from you.
Every guy wants to hear from you, but they don't know that when they hear from you all the time, they're going to lose interest. They don't know that they need space because that equals pain.
I'm not going to teach you the kind of text messages to text them. Focus instead on your emotional state.
That will affect your level of response and how you project yourself. Your emotional state affects how you perceive yourself as well as the guy. In turn, it affects how your response to him is.
Rather than focusing on the pragmatic which is the exact text messages that you will send him, focus on the source so that you could automatically fix the problem.
Your perception of people will always supersede what you say.
Things to focus on:
1. Ask yourself, ‘Am I trying to feel better by sending him this text or by responding to him in this way?’ This will bring out any neediness so that if you are trying to feel better, you do the opposite.
The reason why you come across as needy is because you're trying to remove a negative emotion. When you stop trying to feel better, all those needy behaviors go away.
If you're trying to feel better, ask yourself the opposite of your response and send that.
Finding an emotional equilibrium and observing your neediness automatically fixes how you text.
2. Don’t put too much thinking in how you respond, only delay your response from time to time. If it becomes a habit of never responding on time, then he’s gonna start doing it out of resentment.
Guys see through the b*llshit. What happens is that he begins to play those games. You don't want to play those games so it's better to respond normally.
Sometimes you try to respond late because you want to come across as cool. That's called reverse supplication. You're really being needy. Just respond normally.
The only time I delay is when I feel like I’m putting too much pressure.
3. It's okay if you text a lot, just have breaks. Don’t panic about sounding too needy. Creating space enhances his perception of you automatically.
If you've sent him three straight text messages, don't worry about it. Take a break for one to two days. You can then go back to normal.
As soon as he questions whether or not you're losing interest, you're back to the place where you want to be. Guys will take you for granted if they think they have you.
Text normally and create space from time to time.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.