This is something that hits us on a daily basis, especially with social media or if you constantly look at yourself in the mirror.
It's scary because the more you see yourself in the mirror, the more you start noticing your flaws and the more you start seeing the inevitable - what's really going to happen.
That tends to instill a lot of fear, resentment and some sense of losing control.
The last thing you should do is resist it. It doesn't mean you're going to be sad about it or you're not going to feel bad about it.
You have to accept it. Something you can do to improve upon that, to prepare for it, is meditate. Really meditate on being old.
Whenever you see an older person, see yourself in them. The problem comes when people don't expect it. The problem comes when people don't put realistic expectations on what life is with the aging process.
If you prepare and understand that it will happen and you have the presence of mind to meditate on it, when the moment comes, you're going to be in a better place in terms of accepting it.
You're going to be more malleable as opposed to being rigid. When I see an older person, I say to myself, 'That's me right there one day.'
It's absolutely inevitable if I survive.
The problem that most people have is they think that when they get older, they're going to be unhappy. I don't know. You could be in a bad situation, but it doesn't mean that you suffer.
You feel shitty about being older, but accept it. Don't try to go back to the past and relieve what you once had.
That's where the suffering is - the desire to go back to the past. What we have to do is stay in the present and accept it for what it is right now.
As you get older, try to improve on yourself and stay in shape. Just know your limits. The suffering comes when you try to dictate nature. Sometimes you even put yourself under the knife.
Some people believe that in order to have better value as a person, you need to have a bigger butt or bigger boobs.
When you derive your sense of self from how you look and how men react to you, you're going to struggle. That's why you need to shift where you derive your self-esteem from. Do you derive it from men and their validation or do you allowed yourself to suffer through pain and realize that your essence is still there?
You'll realize that who you are is the awareness itself.
Consistently meditate on the inevitable. Accept it before it occurs. That allows you to have the presence of mind and accept it.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.