As I was walking my dog, I realized that love is a business and its currency is emotion. How good you make me feel about myself is how much money you have in the bank account.
What you need to understand about business is that there’s no loyalty. There's only a mutual agreement that's beneficial to both parties. If one person feels that they're not benefiting from this relationship, they will drop out and break up with you.
When they do, they're going to look like they don't even give a f***. You'll be like ‘how about all those moments that we had?’ They then say ‘I don't care about those moments. I don't like you anymore. This relationship doesn't benefit me anymore.’
When you're in a trance of love, you feel a spiritual experience. When you're out of it, you see how silly you really were.
You see love as a personal thing. You see it as something you're entitled to. When you don't get it, you think it's a reflection of who you are.
If love is a business, then you have to learn about leverage. You have to learn how to put your opponent in a position of weakness and put yourself in a position of power. The number one way for you to lose your power is for you to not be able to control your emotions - being in a scarcity mentality, needing an outcome in order to succeed.
Whenever you need the business to go through, that's when you are automatically losing. The one who needs the contract the least is the one who has more leverage. The one who is willing to walk away is the one who sets the frame of the business.
If you have everything to lose in a business, you'll be capitulating to the other person's demands. In order for you to have any success in relationships, you have to be completely willing to lose the person. Realize that people take you for granted when you're too available.
If you feel like you're losing out emotionally because you're not going out with this person, you've automatically lost. You feel like you need this person in order to feel good. Whenever they text you and say 'I'm not going to see you,' you emotionally react because you can't control yourself. They control you.
Their existence allows you to feel A state of equilibrium emotionally - to be at ease with yourself.
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