When you want a guy so badly, your desire will narrow the scope of your vision. If you value getting that emotional release, fulfilling that fantasy through a relationship, or getting validation that a guy hasn't given you, you might sacrifice your self-respect.
What is self-respect? It means having your standards and sticking by them no matter what. It's about having personal boundaries.
You can never learn this lesson until you've been f***** over by breaking these rules. We break these rules all the time because we get too emotional. We get too outcome dependent.
When a guy asks you to come over, you just go because you want to see him. You want to spend time with him and not feel this way any more. You’ll ignore the disrespect and you stay with him. He gives you little scraps of validation and you take them like the junkie that you are. You take those little scraps and that's what you deserve because you're accepting that. If that's what you want, then good for you. If not, then you're compromising your values.
I'm talking about a situation when someone crosses your boundaries - especially when you like the person and you feel needy inside. It causes you to continually break your rules.
You have to see the value of walking away. I don't think women understand the value of walking away because you don't pay attention to it.
I noticed that some women just like the attention. Every time I set up something with a girl and I know she's a flake, I plan two dates behind her.
Some guys ask a girl out and she would show a lot of interest. When it's almost time for the date, she'll make a lot of excuses that she can’t go. Guys usually get angry.
I see that as an opportunity for me to apply what I know - indifference. I don't hit her up again. They're the ones who hit me up if they want to go out.
I could have sex with her, but I wouldn't earn her respect. That wouldn't be a fair exchange. I would rather lose her.
You shouldn't trade a relationship for respect. You notice that he keeps flaking on you, but you keep coming back like an addict. You know deep down that you shouldn't be doing this, but you still keep coming back. You're doing this and hoping that he doesn't reject you. If he does, your self-esteem goes even lower.
What I learned is that it's not worth it.
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