I don't want to sound negative but if you have the option to choose between a long-distance relationship and one in the same city, I recommend that you choose the latter. Let me tell you why.
1. The frustration
IT’s no surprise that being in a long-distance relationship with a guy you like can be very frustrating. You see other couples being happy together and enjoying their time together, and you are on your phone skyping with your significant other, while knowing that you couldn't be with them.
It can make you resent your situation and cause more suffering than pleasure. If you are not patient enough or not have the ability to deal with those intense emotions that arise from long-distance relationships, then it might not be for you.
This frustration causes little things that happen in the relationship to blow out of proportion. If a little argument occurs, it’ll have greater intensity because of the frustration of not being around each other.
2. The uncertainty
You can never really know what your partner is up to 24/7 unless you’re like a hawk stalking his every move.
If you’re the type that NEEDS to know what your man is doing, then you will suffer.
Having this much uncertainty can make any girl go crazy. You don’t know if he’s seeing another woman, or if he’s not happy with the relationship.
3. Meeting other people
This is the thing that most women fear out of long distance relationships: other people, and in this case, other women.
You can never really know if he’s sleeping around with other women because, quite frankly, you’re not around to see it!
Having your physical presence around DOES deter him from cheating because it keeps his perspective onto how valuable you are to him.
That’s why, if you’re going to have a long-distance relationship, make sure you have as many physical connections as possible. It reminds him of what he really has because the mind tends to forget living in a world of never ending stimulation.
4. The half life of the relationship
Nothing sucks more than spending the honeymoon phase of a relationship apart. That shit sucks! What a waste of honey!
When you spend most of the beginning of the relationship apart, you tend to miss out on the bond that’s created from being together a lot for the first time.
I have no scientific evidence that proves if there’s a special connection that’s created during that time, but I do know that it feels special and it carries weight when the relationship makes it out of the 3-month period.
5. Financial strain
It’s no secret that the number 1 cause of divorce is finances. If you’re in a long distance relationship, it will COST MONEY TO SEE EACH OTHER. That’s money that most people don’t have. This strain on your finances can add up to the detriment of the relationship.
6. Not enough sex
Not having enough sex, especially with the person you love, can cause a rip in a relationship. If your man is constantly in need to fuck you, and he’s not doing it, his focus will be redirected towards a direction that you might not want him to point to.
7. You grow apart
Being away from each other might cause one partner to say, “Forget it, I’m willing to take the loss and find me someone closer to me.” With online dating, this statement becomes even easier.
As we grow older, we change and evolve, and if you’re apart from each other, you might grow apart to the point where the connection is not there anymore.
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