A lot of people, when they're on a date, they think that they've lost the person's interest because they were too boring. The truth is that people lose interest in you not because you're boring, but because you were too needy. You've shown too much interest. It's a lot better to err on the side of boredom rather than be interesting.
When you're on a date with a guy and you try to be too interesting, your reactions won't be congruent with the situation. You're going to come across as if you’re trying to be something you're not.
It's a lot better to be boring on a date. A guy will give you the benefit of the doubt and that's fine. The guy will think you're acting bored because of him. A guy is going to think that you are being boring because he is not that interesting.
That's what you want. You want somebody to believe that it's their fault the date is going bad.
People, particularly men, who have insecurities are going to think ‘she's not talking because of me.’ Let me put more effort on the date. Let me invest more in the hope that she smiles.
Then, you begin to invest more. You begin to talk more, but you do it slowly. You want the other person to believe that you're the kind of person who slowly warms up to people.
You want the person to believe that it was their personality that got you to be more relaxed. They got you to be more extroverted and comfortable.
Don't start a date with a guy instantly extroverted. You do it slowly. Come across as a little bit more shy in the beginning then slowly ramp up the tension.
Don't show too much interest in the beginning. Give him a cold body language. Turn away from him. Slowly but surely, during the conversation, you’ll start opening your body language. You converse more. You invest more, but you do it slowly.
Make him think in the beginning that you're not interested in him.
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