I realize that there are some things you can say to people that will break them down. It's not that they don't know it. It's just that they don't want to think about it. You see that a lot with body image or even your finances. Reality is so intense. Its brutality could be so out of this world that you just want to escape.
That's the thing about humans. Humans hate reality because it appears unbearable. Athletes who are getting older don't want to think about aging. They don't want to think that they're no longer the person they once were. Everyone else sees it but them. They don't see it because of intense emotion. Reality is being fogged by emotion.
The more layers of emotions you have, the less in touch with reality you are.
The more pain you resist, the more layers upon layers of reality you put on. The purpose of meditation or even psychedelics is to remove those barriers. You’ll have a gauge of reality without having your ego filter it.
A lot of people are crazy because they're not in touch with reality. They're too inside their egos. People are out of touch with reality because of intense pain. The pain could be so difficult that the brain, in order to deal with the pain, has to morph reality around itself.
Since everything is open to interpretation, your brain will change up the facts so you could be happy.
What I want people to do is to remove those layers of reality. To do so would mean not reacting to the emotions that arise but instead going into those emotions. When you go into those emotions, you'll be getting in touch with reality.
Usually, when you feel intense emotions, the overwhelming aspect of life puts its weight on you and you want to look away. When you look away, what you'll see is not reality but your fantasy. It's a prison made by your mind. When you don't choose reality, you're going into your mind-made prison. It's one of the caveats of using pleasure to suppress pain.
One gay dude once said that if you suppress your pain, you also suppress your joy in life. That's the lesson that I haven't learned yet. Generally, a lot of people think they’re living in reality. When you have strong emotions, you're never going to be in reality.
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