When you're not a challenge from the start, you'll automatically feel that you're the one who's chasing. What we all have to do right now is change our mentality at a fundamental level.
Know the difference between being a value and being a threat. Whenever you are not a value or a threat, guys would not focus on you because you're not any different. You’ve got to have relevance in a guy’s life.
You want to become either a value or a threat. Information about us is of relevance to us by its nature. We can use that information to either have more success or failure. It's like saying ’you know what I notice about you that's so interesting?’ The other person says 'yeah, what's going on?’ Then you say ’nevermind. Anyways, what have you been up to?’ This makes them say ’tell me. What's interesting about me?’ Now there's emotion towards you. Now you have some relevance. This instantly makes you have more value because they want to know - even if they don't like you or know you yet. Just because it's about them, causes you to have more value instantly.
How can you be a threat? You can say ’I hate you,’ ‘me and you will never get along’ or ‘you don't seem like boyfriend material. I should go right now.’ Playfully pushing him away will make you a threat to his ego. You'll become a threat to their self-esteem. That's how you make them invest more in the interaction.
You can also become a threat by your facial reactions. I actually teach this in my course: The Psychological Game of Attraction. When he's talking about something, you can make the facial reaction that you dislike what he said or you don't agree with him. In his mind, he'll be thinking what he's doing wrong. Emotionally, he's going to want to get that good reaction. You're making him think about his value while talking to you.
Another way is complimenting him. You can say ’you're actually kind of smart’ or 'you're actually really cute’ and then change the topic. ‘You're actually’ meaning what the f*** do you mean by actually. Change the topic so he’ll think ’what the f*** did she mean?’
Now you're changing the topic and there's a new thread of conversation. He has to linger with that emotion subconsciously while he consciously talks to you. You are threatening his self-esteem because you're lowering it. However, you're not giving him any time to react to that.
Once you get their attention, do something that's either a value or a threat.
We discuss this in greater detail in my course.... click here.