Let's talk about the causes, signs, and consequences of having low self-esteem so you could identify it in your life and work on it. A sign of low self-esteem is living in fear.
Why do people never work on themselves?
The reason why people don't work on their self-esteem is that they think they don't have low self-esteem, not because the facts are there but because they're rationalizing it. This fear comes in different forms (like anger) but doesn’t show its true face because if we saw it through being conscious, we might pain and take action. The way we get around it is through rationalization.
These are logical rationales that convince us not to take action. Remember that pros beat resistance and are committed to it full time. They don’t wait to feel good to take action
The issue is that they don’t let go of the resistance and it becomes stuck and part of their personality in the form of a low self-image or low self-esteem.
So let’s get started, let me tell you the consequences of having low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem causes fear to run your life. You fear the outcome and facts of yourself. If you’re going after a goal and you don’t tackle your fears, you won’t succeed. You must stop believing that unconsciousness makes life better by not facing your fears.
Low self-esteem causes people to run away from problems because they don’t think they can handle it. It avoids, runs and fears the new and good.
Low self-esteem causes addiction to approval and causes you to have an abusive relationship.
Low self-esteem is shy and extroverted. It doesn’t find joy in things or achieving goals, but in showing it off or to prove a point. It destroys the satisfaction of the goal.
Low self-esteem is not persistent. You say “I’m such a failure” rather than “damn I fucked up”.
Low self-esteem is defensiveness. The more “I” (narcissistic), the lower self-esteem.
Low self-esteem causes addiction to comparison. The core of the ego is comparison. We may love our toy, but if we see a bigger toy, we don’t love it as much. The emotion is what makes us feel lower, not the actual reality. And why? Judging ourselves, not on our own standards, but on someone else’s unrealistic standards. We value their judgment over ours since we feel and think we should measure to the norm we feel sad and second rate. Babies don’t feel that though!
So what is the solution to having low self-esteem?
Low self-esteem is the blood clot of the mind. The unconsciousness is repression from bad coping. The perimeter is sensitive and reactive. We must observe them and become conscious. Run to the fear. Use fear and pain as a perimeter of where to focus attention and become obsessed with good self-esteem.
How to start? Feel pain. The difference between a pro and an amateur is that they do what others don’t do. Start with the pain and take no excuses.
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