There is a news story of a woman who literally chased a guy away by sending him 65,000 text messages. She sent those messages and justified them. She told him on the first day that they will be soulmates.
Don't tell him he’s your soulmate on your first date. Don't tell him your plans on the first date - that you want to have a kid with him and you guys will make a good couple together. This is not a lesbian relationship. You guys are not going to move in together fast.
What makes a guy lose interest is when a woman begins to tell him her fantasies. She begins to include him in the fantasies.
The girl sent 65,000 texts. I thought 6 messages were crazy. There was a point where she said ‘Baby, text me back.’ She also turned dark and started saying that she will bathe in his blood or wear his skull. I don't know how it got to 65,000 but she's in jail right now.
You have to control those fantasies in your head. Whenever you're sad about your life, you hold on to your fantasies in the hope that fantasizing can help make things happen.
The result is that you try to force it and you talk too much about it. If you tell a guy about your plans too early, it's because you're too emotional. You have too many intense emotions dominating and controlling you. No matter how much something you think will make you happy, once you get it, you're going to fall into a deep depression.
Things in life are very anticlimactic. There are so many times when I heard about people who got what they want such as their dream house. After only a few weeks of being there, they look up and realize that they are empty inside.
Your dreams will not make you happy. Dreams only give you hope of happiness. Once you have it, you go on to the next dream.
Clinginess is what's going to ruin your relationship. When you're obsessed about someone, you believe that they're the ones who are going to make you happy.
When you tell someone you want to be their soulmate on the first date, you expose yourself. You think it's only normal, but it's only normal for you. It's awkward for the other person.
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