This is one of the being concepts for improving your relationships which is role-playing.
Any conceptual sense of self is the ego. This can range from having a positive sense of self to a negative sense of self. Behind shyness is fear of criticism and judgment which will diminish your sense of self.
Behind a confident ego is the fear of inferiority. Whenever you feel inferior or superior to somebody else, that’s the ego. Whenever you feel inferior or superior to somebody else, that’s the ego. This changes as we interact with people and it fluctuates. When you perceive someone as superior then that’s the ego in you awakening and it awakens theirs. You both react.
Ego reacts to the ego. Form reacts to form.
When the ego doesn't get the response it seeks, it looks for it in negative attention like when a girl rejects you and you call her a bitch for it. This feeling is accumulated from past emotional pain that encompasses your ego.
A common role is the victim. Victims seek validation to feed it. They will go the lengths to distort reality. This is ego as long as it stays unconscious. This is done through a personal story so in order to stay alive, it needs problems. If no one listens to its story, it’ll be replaying in your mind until it finds another way to externalize it.
When you see a man as a provider, your needs won't be met and your ego reacts. Falling in love is an intensification of the ego because you feel your sense of self enhanced and even see it. You become addicted to the new self, the person's image of you. That’s why the greater the pain the needier you are.
What happens when you hold on to past pain? It gets triggered. Let's assume your sense of self is based on 5 things. You will either become confused or let go of the need to know. You let go of your past.
You can play different roles as long as you’re conscious. Can you tell the difference between talking to a child and an adult? Outside of the intellect, it’s the roles. You are not yourself when talking to a child. You even change the way you talk and filter.
For example, the ego is like athletes. You hate them but when you meet them you like them. here is no authentication in communication. All illusion and interacting with one's head. The more identified we are with roles, the more unauthentic communications will be. It’ll be a filter fest. Again, filtering is fine on purpose, but not reactionary.
Letting go of roles is all about letting go of conceptual identities. You become more powerful when you do things for its own sake rather than to play into a role, an image role of how things are supposed to be. You don’t do things to protect, enhance or conform to your identity. In other words, you’re free of judgment.
The goal in pickup is to take people out of their roles and into new frontiers. Use roles to bring surprise and excitement to people’s lives. By interacting with your higher self, you loosen people’s defensiveness and lessen their ego. They stop playing roles. Suddenly all your relationship loosen up and improve.
Bringing your ego-less self to all things brings quality because you’re not worried about the outcome.
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