Now, let's talk about how to get your ex back. This is actually a topic I have been avoiding because I don't really recommend doing it but a lot of you are asking about it, so here goes.
When the breakup happens, you have to actually express yourself and how you feel. Be as angry as you want to be and get it all out of your system. Also, stop messaging him suddenly. If he sends you a message, don’t respond.
You have to have your emotion checked by leaving their lives for a few months and working on yourself. The absence helps create the illusion of who you are and may enhance it. While away you can get in shape, meditate, work on your career, get a social circle, learn new skills, take pictures and get in touch. Enhance your value and focus on yourself.
After working on yourself, roam around the places he frequently roams. In social media, start liking his status, post comments from time to time and start posting videos of guys you find that doesn’t look like him and tag other guys on your posts. Also, frequent the places that he goes to and don't approach him. Then, start messaging him more and suddenly stop.
If he was enjoying the conversation he had with you, he'll start asking what did he do wrong. Also, ask him to go out and cancel but the next time you request to schedule, meet up.
In person, be very flirty and be very physical but don't escalate and don't let him go for the kiss. Let him guess what's going on and let him guess what are your intentions. Don’t tell him you guys are going as friends. Stop being a turn-off. Let him guess it or know through crossing the boundaries. Give him mixed signals.
Create a space to make him wonder. Space is required because it resets the perception he had of you. Space is what gives you the extra edge and it also creates need and uncertainty in his heart which is the space he needs in order to love you.
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